The 40 Year Old Bat Mitzvah

Golfing with the Girls

Posted in personal growth, philosophizing by Juliet on May 13, 2010

Whenever Mom watches a movie, she walks out craving whatever the characters ate. (This includes our conversation about a particularly gory episode of The Sopranos where someone was gunned down across a dining room table and Mom’s takeaway was how good the sauteed spinach looked.)

I’m like that with lifestyle.

I am impressionable. I am vulnerable.

Dawn from Junior League says she never misses her weekly golf outing. It gives her sanity. Reshma catches up with friends at Coffee Bean while their kids are in preschool. Erica weaves her own wool. Megan knits and crochets.

I hear this, and I think: I need to learn to golf! I need to get my friends to meet me at Coffee Bean! And so on.

But what I need to do is take their experiences as a lesson: everyone is different. Everyone finds relaxation and restoration in her own unique way.

I need to find recreation — in the true RE-CREATION sense of the word — on my own terms.

I cannot emulate anyone else’s happiness. I need to find my own. There’s nobody else on planet earth like me, and that’s a good thing.


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  1. Mom said, on May 13, 2010 at 3:24 PM

    I don’t remember the sauteed spinich, but the spagetti & meatballs and cheese pies looked mighty good!

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